Is your dating life just like the movie Groundhog Day?

As Groundhog Day quickly approaches, it makes me contemplate the meaning of the movie with that same name.

Coincidentally, my book, Date to Find Your Soulmate, is launching on February 2nd, which happens to be Groundhog Day.

In case you don’t know the plot of the movie, Groundhog Day is about a weatherman who gets trapped in a time loop. He is forced to relive February 2nd over and over again until he gets it right.

Although I haven’t been stuck in a time loop, I have faced many dating challenges throughout the years. It sometimes feels like I keep reliving the same dates over and over again. In Date to Find Your Soulmate, I tell a variety of stories that everyone can relate to. Some of the anecdotes I write about have happened to me many times. I often find myself staring at a date with a feeling of deja vu.

Dating lessons from the movie Groundhog Day

1. Being single is a blessing.

Sure, it may feel like a curse to be single and see happy couples all around, but the world is at your fingertips. You just haven’t met the right person yet. Your time will come, just as it did for Phil, the main character in the movie.

2. Live in the moment.

Enjoy your present life and be happy with today. You have no idea if there will be a tomorrow for you, so just embrace the day and stay positive. Phil had great days and awful ones. He seemed genuinely happy when he made the most of his day.

3. Everything is a learning experience.

Every time you talk to a new person, you can refine your skills and improve how you interact with others. When Phil got slapped or rejected by a woman, he learned from his mistakes and knew what to do differently next time.

4. Growth takes time.

You can’t develop into the ideal version of yourself immediately. Phil wanted everything to happen all at once, but he discovered that it takes time to evolve and grow to become a decent human being.

5. Be your best self.

Phil lived the same day for almost 34 years, and that would make anyone go insane! Throughout the movie, he kept trying to please others, but that didn’t get him anywhere. When he finally became the best version of himself, that’s when he found love.

Check out my list of other romantic time travel and alternate reality movies here. Of course, Groundhog Day is on the list because it’s one of my favorites! Here are some other life lessons you can learn from watching this movie.

If you don’t want to continue making the same mistakes in love over and over again just like Phil did, then be sure to read my book, Date to Find Your Soulmate. You’ll learn applicable dating techniques to help you find your ideal partner!

What are some body language tricks to attract a date?

When you meet new people, their initial impression of you is mainly based on your appearance and body language. It’s important to look your best and give off a positive vibe that reveals your interest.

In “The Little Mermaid,” Ariel asks how to get a man’s attention without her voice. Ursula, the sea witch, says, “Don’t underestimate the importance of body language.” Although she’s trying to manipulate Ariel into signing her life away, there’s truth to that statement.

If you’re infatuated with someone who thinks of you as a platonic friend, learn some ways to get your crush to notice you as a romantic possibility.

Body Language Tricks

1. Make eye contact and widen your eyes when talking to your date. Widening your eyes conveys interest and makes you appear more attractive.

2. Mirror your date’s movements, and lean forward as you make conversation. This will get him/her to relax and feel like you’re completely connected.

3. Keep your head up, shoulders back, and arms and legs uncrossed. You will exude confidence and openness, which are both sexy.

4. Point your feet toward your date. If you do cross your legs, then at least have your top foot facing him/her. This shows interest and availability.

5. Smile like you mean it. A genuine smile will catch everyone’s attention, while a fake one will repel them all.

6. Reach out and gently put your hand on his/her arm for a few seconds, and then slowly pull it away and run your hand through your hair. This will get your date to imagine running his/her own hands through your hair.

 

Using proper body language tricks can lead to a flirtatious, sexy conversation with someone you’re interested in. Once you master these tricks, you’ll be more relaxed and attract the right people. Check out my list of flirting tips that you can use as well. Plus, read more about how body language is an essential tool in dating and attraction.

 

What are common red flags that you’ll find on a first date?

Sometimes you may date someone for weeks or even months before noticing a blinding red flag. You can’t help who you fall in love with, so you push the red flags aside and ignore signs that he/she isn’t right for you. Once the relationship ends, you kick yourself for wasting so much precious time with the wrong person.

If you pay attention to your date’s behaviors when you first go out, it could save you months of heartache and misery dating someone who has no respect for you. If your friends don’t like your date, ask them for specific reasons. They could just be jealous of your sexy new partner, or perhaps they see some negative traits that you have been ignoring.

 

Common Red Flags on a First Date

1. Shows up remarkably late without an explanation or apology.

2. Orders for you without asking what you want.

3. Talks about himself the whole time and doesn’t seem interested in learning anything about you.

4. Barely speaks at all, so you have to fill the awkward silence.

5. Constantly looks at his phone and texts other people.

6. Negative or angry without having a good reason.

7. Gets overly emotional and cries to you about a personal problem.

8. Bores you to death, and you find yourself glancing at the clock frequently.

9. Has no concern for your safety.

10. Gets completely drunk.

11. Embarrasses you.

12. Rude to the waiter or strangers you pass on the street.

13. Trash-talks his ex.

14. Talks about how he hates his family.

15. Agrees with everything you say and has no differing opinions.

 

All of these are general red flags, but you’ll know if your date says or does something questionable. Your friends won’t always be there to warn you, so it’s important for you to remove your blinders and see your date clearly. He/she may hide any red flags in the beginning to try and impress you, but your date’s true colors will shine through eventually.

Don’t ignore red flags. If you notice something that your date says or does that bothers you, find out more information about it. And this article has a great list of red flags you shouldn’t ignore as you get deeper into dating.

Check out my list of flirting tips if you want to appear sexy and alluring on your date. Just remember that if you show any red flags, you shouldn’t be surprised if you never hear from your date again.

Did you know that there are three entities of a relationship?

As a relationship coach, I’ve learned that working with couples is a lot more complex than working with singles. It’s because I’m not just focusing on the couple. There are two individuals that each have their own set of values and opinions and personality traits. They connected and formed a partnership, and that relationship is the third entity.

The first entity: YOU

You are one-of-a-kind. As an extraordinary individual, you bring all your life experiences to the table when you enter into a relationship. As the years go by and you date multiple people, the one thing each relationship has in common is you.

Perhaps you mature and shift your beliefs about important topics. You may change careers, go through a mid-life crisis, move to a new city, and experience traumatic or stressful situations throughout your life. However, you are still YOU.

The person you are at your core will never change. The way you act around others will vary, though. You probably reveal a different side of yourself to different types of people. You hold back part of yourself on a first date, but then, as you grow more comfortable with your partner, you begin to reveal more and more about who you are.

The second entity: YOUR PARTNER

Just as you are your own person, so is your partner. Even if your partner grew up in the same town and had a similar background, it’s extremely unlikely that you have identical personalities.

I grew up with two sisters. We were raised the same way, yet my parents were amazed that they produced three daughters who were so completely different from one another. As a child, my sisters were my partners in life. Family is usually your first taste of what it’s like to be in a relationship. You have to get along, despite your differences.

In the dating world, you don’t have to stay with someone if you have too many differences. But you should understand that nobody will be a clone of you. The point of dating is to meet others and see how compatible you are. Once you find someone you get along with, you can decide if your values are in alignment and you have a similar vision for your relationship.

The third entity: YOUR RELATIONSHIP

I want you to think back to all your previous relationships. Perhaps they had a few things in common, but my guess is that the relationship dynamics were vastly different from one another.

It’s because when you put two people together, no matter how similar you are, this partnership is completely unique and can’t be replicated. Even if you strive to find another partner exactly like your ex, it’s impossible for the relationship dynamics to be the same.

A while ago, I dated two brothers in the same year. They grew up together, were close in age, and had similar interests. However, as I got to know the second brother, I discovered that the way we interacted with each other wasn’t at all like my interactions with the first brother. I was still being my true self, but my relationship with each brother was very distinct.

Be aware of the three entities of a relationship.

Jumping into a new relationship is exhilarating and exciting. I just hope you recognize that there are three entities present in every relationship. It takes time and effort to make it last. You have to care for yourself, your partner, and the relationship in order to have success.