Do you have grass is greener syndrome in your dating life? If you don’t know what it means, think about the proverb “the grass is always greener on the other side.” It means that other people seem to be in a better situation than you. If you apply this to dating, then it means that you think everyone else has a better relationship status.
Do you feel like you’re missing out on something incredible? Do you always seem to be dating with one foot out the door? Having grass is greener syndrome is not just connected to your dating life. It can pertain to your job, your location, and your social circle as well.
I’ll admit that I’ve moved way too many times in my adult life because I’m constantly searching for someplace better to live. I’ve rarely felt settled in any location, so I didn’t give each place a solid chance to grow on me. I do, however, give men a fair chance in dating. Some of my friends who are in serious relationships are always looking for someone better, and they may never feel fully satisfied in their current situations.
Maybe you’re bored with your partner, or perhaps you feel trapped and want the ability to have a quick getaway if needed. Or you’re just afraid of commitment, and you tell yourself that you’ll find a better partner next time. You don’t put enough effort into your relationship because you’re always looking ahead to see what else is out there. Therefore, all your relationships fail.
Do you constantly wonder “what if”?
What if you swipe right on Tinder and find the love of your life on your next date? Even though the person sitting across from you on your date is amazing, you still wonder if there’s someone better for you. The swiping mentality has ruined dating in some ways. Practically everyone has developed grass is greener syndrome in dating. They know that they can swipe right on hundreds of others, so they don’t pay attention to what’s right in front of them.
What if you’re dating someone great, but you’re jealous of your friend’s relationship with her boyfriend? You see how they interact with each other, and you desperately want that for yourself. You don’t know what goes on behind closed doors, though, so maybe YOU are actually in a successful relationship while your friend only appears to be happy. She could be miserable, so it’s dangerous to compare your situation to others.
What if you’re about to get married, but you’re afraid that this isn’t the perfect relationship you’ve always dreamed about? You worry that marrying this person will be a huge mistake. Unfortunately, nobody is perfect. You have to accept the good with the bad. Even if it seems like all your single friends are much better off, you should stop comparing your life to others.
If you try to date while you have grass is greener syndrome, you’ll never be happy.
All you can do is enjoy the present. Avoid comparing your life to social media posts (what you see is mostly fake anyway)! Just live life to the fullest and be grateful for what you have.