What stage of life are you in? Are you just entering adulthood, and you feel like the world is at your fingertips? Or do you desperately want to find a life partner and start a family?
While doing research for my book, I came across a theory developed by psychologist Daniel Levinson. His theory, entitled the “Seasons of Life,” identifies different stages of life that adults go through.
What stage of life are you in?
1. Early Adult Transition (Ages 17-22)
You become an adult and choose to attend college or enter the workforce. You may leave home and begin your first serious relationship.
2. Entering the Adult World (Ages 22-28)
You start to make more decisions about who you are, what you want to do, and what you value in life.
3. Age 30 Transition (Ages 28-33)
You could have major lifestyle changes at this stage, like getting married or having kids.
4. Settling Down (Ages 33-40)
You begin to establish a routine, reach goals, and behave like a mature adult. You may already be a parent and have more responsibilities in life.
5. Mid-Life Transition (Ages 40-45)
You evaluate your life and may change your values and your vision of the future. You could get divorced or change careers during this time period.
6. Entering Middle Adulthood (Ages 45-50)
You start to make choices about your future and think about the legacy you’re leaving.
7. Culmination of Middle Adulthood (Ages 50-60)
You may reach the end of your working life and make plans for retirement.
8. Late Adulthood (Ages 60+)
You reflect on life and think about all the decisions you’ve made thus far.
When it comes to dating, it’s important to confirm that the person you’re dating is in the same life stage as you. The age range isn’t exact, as you may be 25 years old but feel ready to settle down. Or, on the other hand, you may be 45 years old and still searching for your life partner.
You don’t want to waste each other’s time by dating someone in a different life stage. If you are ready to get married and have kids, then it’s pointless to date someone who wants to play the field for a few more years.