Do you have a clear idea of what traits you want in a partner?
Think about all the people you’ve been attracted to throughout your life. Do they have any similarities? Are you dating the same type of person over and over again, or is each person unique?
If you have ever made a list of traits you want in a partner, some of the traits are most likely superficial. Do you absolutely NEED a tall blonde? Or would a short brunette with a compatible personality be a better match for you? Even if you do make a detailed list of qualities that are not superficial, how likely is it that you’ll find someone who matches every one?
Years ago I made a list of 35 traits I wanted in a partner (very few were superficial), and I surprisingly found a guy who was a perfect match! Unfortunately, after dating for a few months, I realized that he was not the perfect match for me. I discovered that making an elaborate list of traits is fun, but you need a powerful connection in order for the relationship to succeed. If you are not the best version of yourself around this person, it’s not the right partner for you.
Being clear about what you want in a relationship is important.
Making a list of your relationship requirements is necessary so you don’t waste your time with the wrong person. However, a long list of superficial qualities will most likely lead you to the wrong person again and again. This article lists 7 Characteristics of an Ideal Partner. You’ll notice that none of them are superficial.
Perhaps you should take a chance on someone who makes you laugh, even if the person is not the ideal height for you. I once dated a guy who always saw me with contact lenses in. One day I wore my glasses, and he ended it. His ideal woman didn’t wear glasses, so that was it for him. It proved how superficial a person can be, so I’m glad I had that experience.
Looks fade, and you never know what could happen. You may search forever for a partner with supermodel looks. You actually find that person, but then he/she gets into a car accident and doesn’t have as beautiful a face anymore. Would you end the relationship?
There are plenty of shallow people out there, but if you are searching for a substantial relationship, I hope you’re not one of them.
Making the right kind of list will give you clarity and direction when searching for your life partner.
Cross off any superficial traits and come up with a solid list of five or six qualities you require in a relationship. Keep the list with you and refer to it when you meet a potential partner. With a little luck, you’ll hopefully find your perfect match in no time!