Masculine vs. feminine energy is important to understand in relationships.

You may believe that men should only have masculine energy and women should only have feminine energy. However, these energies aren’t specific to gender. Everyone contains both types of energy, and what matters is that the two people in a relationship lead with opposite energy types.

If you have feminine energy and meet someone who also has the same energy, you’ll feel an instant connection. You may have discovered a new friend who fully understands you. But this will never turn into a passionate romance because you’re both leading with the same type of energy.

In relationships, similarities with core values and life goals are necessary, but you should have opposite energies in order to keep the passion alive.

Masculine Energy Traits

1. Competitive
2. Strong
3. Dominating
4. Decisive
5. Active
6. Logical
7. Rigid
8. Assertive
9. Giving
10. Intellectual

Feminine Energy Traits

1. Collaborative
2. Nurturing
3. Yielding
4. Creative
5. Passive
6. Intuitive
7. Flexible
8. Accommodating
9. Receiving
10. Expressive

I can relate to both lists, and for a while, I thought I led with masculine energy. I was brought up to be a strong woman with an assertive personality, and I thrive on competition, which is typically a male trait. Because of my upbringing, I often got into relationships with men who led with feminine energy so we’d balance each other out. I was able to lead with my masculine energy because I have it within me, just as everyone has aspects of both.

Unfortunately, I began to realize that leading with masculine energy doesn’t come naturally to me. It’s somewhat forced, and I never feel like the best version of myself. My true nature is to lead with feminine energy. I’m definitely able to lead with masculine energy, but it’s not ideal for me.

I know plenty of women who prefer to lead with masculine energy. That’s completely fine, as long as they find partners who prefer to lead with feminine energy. As I mentioned above, the energy you lead with isn’t specific to your gender. It’s a personal preference, and you’ll know what feels right for you.

If you date someone who leads with the same energy type as you, the relationship will likely fail.

The more polarity you have with energy types, the better the chance of success in your relationship. Tony Robbins came up with a quiz to discover if you lead with masculine or feminine energy. You can go HERE to learn your leading energy type.