How can you spice up your sex life? Once you’ve been in a relationship for a while, the passion and excitement may start to fizzle out. The most important thing is to communicate your thoughts and feelings to your partner.

Here are 10 ways to spice up your sex life:

1. Cook a romantic meal together.

Or alternate cooking for one another on different nights.

2. Give each other a sensual massage.

Use oils or lotions, and place candles around the room to add romance.

3. Take a dance class together.

Or turn up the music and dance at home.

4. Work out together.

This increases your testosterone, which will increase your sexual desire.

5. Plan a weekly sex date.

Scheduling sex into your calendar will hold you accountable and give you a night to look forward to.

6. Role play.

Dress up as your favorite characters and act out a scene from a book or movie, or create your own fantasies.

7. Blindfold or tie each other up.

Use ropes, belts, handcuffs, or ties, and make sure you have a safe word.

8. Use sex toys.

There are many variations of vibrators and dildos available, and you can add whips and chains if that interests you.

9. Wear sexy lingerie.

Most of us are visual creatures, and even if it’s removed right away, the image will stay in your mind.

10. Include foreplay.

This is very important for a fulfilling sex life. A quickie now and then is great fun, but jumping right to sex won’t work for everyone. Compare this to running a marathon. You may cramp up or get sore if you don’t stretch before running. Without foreplay, you won’t be as wet or turned on during sex. Foreplay can take place outside of the bedroom, too. You can send each other dirty messages or revealing photos throughout the day to get your partner in the mood. Or, if you know your partner will be home at a certain time, you can give yourself some foreplay to get started. This can include masturbating, thinking about what you want to do to your partner, or reading an erotic story. Only 20% of women can reach orgasm from sex by itself, so make sure you include foreplay into your sex life.

 

There are multiple ways to spice up your sex life, and you can try one or all of the ideas mentioned. Oprah Magazine has some other interesting sex tips for you, and the article mentions hiring a sex coach if you’re still stuck. Lucky for you, I am a certified sex coach and can help you come up with new ways to improve the romance in your life.

Be honest with yourself and your partner, and clearly state your wants and desires. If you and your partner have different sex drives, there are ways around that as well. Before giving up on the relationship, try my 10 ways to spice up your sex life, and hopefully that will increase the passion.